Monday, December 27, 2010

CHRISTMAS WAS GONE WITH THE WIND

HAPPY CHRISTMAS BIRTHDAY MOM
MOM COLLECTS CARDINALS - EVERY YEAR SHE RECEIVES NUMEROUS THINGS WITH CARDINALS ON THEM MOM INSISTED SHE NEEDED TO SAVE THIS BOW
THOSE WERE TRICK CANDLES THAT RE-IGNITED
MY DAUGHTER WITH HER GRANDMA
MOM WAS PLEASED WITH THIS CARDINAL BY HALLMARK

Another Christmas has come and gone. Why does it seem to go so quickly? The weeks leading up to the big day are busy and filled with shopping, cleaning, and baking, then the day is here and gone in the wink of an eye. It happens like this every year, so why am I always surprised?
We had our family gathering at Daughter's home and it seemed a good time was had by everyone. Each person brought a small gift and we played the White Elephant game. We had plenty of good food and conversation. We also celebrated my mother's 87th birthday and the only negative aspect was that Mom would not come home with me to spend a few days. My sister and I thought she would be happy to get out of her home and visit with Spouse and me for a little while. Mom lives two hours away from us and I admit I don't go up and visit her as much as I probably should. She has rarely visited us at holiday time and I thought it would be something she'd want to do, but I was mistaken.
I talked to her, tried to reason, even offered a bribe that we'd go to the fabric store and she could choose some flannel if she wanted to work on some lap robes, but it was to no avail. She would not consent to staying with us for a couple days. She first said she couldn't stay in this cold weather - I told her she'd be inside a warm home. She then said she hadn't any clothes with her - my sister assured her she had packed clothes, just in case of a blizzard. Mom then offered that she didn't have medications with her - my sister assured her she did have them with her. On and on it went. Mom had one excuse after another for not staying. I finally stopped trying to convince her.
Elderly people feel more comfortable in their own surroundings and I understand that, but Mom often complains she doesn't have the opportunity to go anywhere or do anything. We were presenting her with an opportunity. I told her we could try again in Spring, but I imagine she'll have other excuses then too. She refused to come last Fall when I'd invited her to visit for a few days. I have the feeling she's not going to come at all. She did seem to have a good time on Christmas Day, and maybe that's enough for her.

5 comments:

Cat Nap Inn Primitives said...

your mom sounds like my mom...she is 84 and won't come for a visit period..she hasn't been to visit me since 1989..and she has never been to this house..she has one bad experience and that is it for her..period..your daughter is beautiful..I see where your granddaughter gets her great looks..I would love to see you.;) hint hint.;)

Andy said...

Lovely pictures of your Mama. Looks like she had a very nice time!

QUILTING IS BLISSFUL, DI said...

Oh my what a lovely time with your mom-she looks like she really did have fun and looks like she may be alot of fun to be around!!!
I am alittle like your mom--I like my own bed and my own things--and I know we get "worse" about this as time goes on!!!!
Are you ready for a New Year!!!
Hugs, di and that--miss gracie

Anonymous said...

It is the last day here of 2010, the New Year is just about upon us, how did it arrive so quickly LOL! Kady, I wish you all the best for the New Year, I have enjoyed reading your blog, all the best to you and your furry little mates!....Merilyn, Australia

GailinVirginia said...

Bless you dear Kady...you do try so hard to bring joy to all:) sadly, you Mom just feels she needs to be in her own home...my mother-in-law was also like that:) just visit her all you can...she is a lovely lady, and daughter and g'daughter are lovely...I know you have a beautiful heart...haven't seen you yet...but hope to:)
How are all those sweet fur babies doing and hubby?
Wishing happy peaceful days ahead for all of you in the coming year:)
~Gail